The Price of Virginity
The other night I spoke with a dorm mom at my children’s home for a bit. We spoke about the kids and the need to cover them. Kids in children homes are especially vulnerable to getting into relationships and crossing boundaries out of a desire to be loved and receive attention. The conversation soon went towards our own relationships (she is dating,I’m engaged) and she shared some of her struggles with her boyfriend and asked me some different questions. Sex is a common topic among her friends and she had always been impressed by my stance about waiting until marriage and by myself control to not pressure Sky or give in before marriage. She worries about her boyfriend eventually pressuring her like all the other guys she has dated. I asked her that night and she shared that she is in fact a virgin. Her friends have pressured her to “try different guys”and grow inexperience. Her boyfriend hasn’t pressured her much, but they haven’t dated 100 days yet and she feels he will pressure her more especially once the topic of marriage comes up more.
I tried to encourage her by how precious she is and what an amazing gift her virginity is. I told her how most prostitutes only get a tiny bit of money each time they sell themselves (only a few dollars in some places), but for virgins men will pay thousands and tens of thousands of dollars for them. Men know the value of virginity. But sadly, once men are acting out of their flesh all sane thought goes out the window and they don’t appreciate or honor the purity of a woman. They just want their carnal desires fulfilled, no matter what. It’s sad. When we are thinking straight we are able to realize just how powerful a woman remaining clean is and what a wonderful gift she is. The dorm mom understands that if she doesn’t sleep with anyone but her husband than she will never compare him to anyone and will truly be able to enjoy him. That is such a sweet gift not just for her future husband but for her too. So many girls once they give up their virginity suddenly feel like used goods and don’t value themselves as much as before. They become more prone to give up their bodies more and more easily. Statistics show that couples who engage in premarital sex are much more prone to divorce than couples that wait. I believe for those who are able to wait they feel more esteemed and have a greater honor for one another. The value of purity is priceless, both for girls and for guys.
For those who have crossed lines in the past, there is still greater honor and beauty in repentance and becoming dedicated to purity until marriage. In our society so few single people are still virgins, but there is still a choice that can be made now to stop giving in and to wait and honor and esteem our future mate. I was so blessed when Sky gave me her promise ring that she has worn as a sign of her pursuit of purity. I wear it on my pinky(amazing it fits!) in honor of her and will keep it there until she put my wedding ring on me when we get married. I want to encourage anyone reading this who is still single to purchase a promise ring, perhaps with your father or a leader from your church with you to bless you in your commitment to purity and waiting for marriage. You and whoever you marry will truly be blessed!
God bless!
